As an alternative, renting a vacation home for the holidays can factor a degree of neutral ground into the get-the-whole-gang-together equation. Staying in a rental property has the potential to be more rewarding than gathering at a hotel, depsite the latter being more likely to offer a bargain (year-to-date revenue for the U.S. hotel industry is off 15%, at $80 billion, according to Smith Travel Research). Yet rental properties have the added advantages of full kitchen facilities, private hot tubs under starry skies and multiple floors of accommodation to keep combative parties apart. Nevertheless, there's still an art to picking the right rental home for your crew.
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First things first (and this is where controlling types need to either step up or relinquish all power completely): Delegate a decision-maker in your group.
"Unless you're in a nuclear family, there are usually several adults involved," says Liza Graves, co-founder of BeautifulPlaces, a luxury villa rental company based in Sonoma, Calif. "It helps to have a decision-maker to organize the group and talk to the rental company," she says. "Sometimes we have people tell us they have to go back to their brother-in-law, or someone else, before making a decision. And by the time they want to rent the house, it's gone."
That's doubly important because a large family could otherwise get stuck with too small a rental if the right one is snapped up by another family. A big group--related or not--in a tiny space can be a catalyst for conflict. Key to getting along is having enough space for everyone to retain some sense of privacy. So when researching rental homes, it's vital to understand the layout of the property, particularly the size and number of bedrooms.
"Make sure to clarify the setup of the beds," says Christine Karpinski, director of owner community for HomeAway.com, a Web site offering more than 170,000 vacation rentals worldwide. "Owners don't try to be malicious on their ads, sometimes they are just poor writers," says Karpinski about deciphering listings. "So if they say 'sleeps eight,' then be sure to ask if it's eight on a sleeper bed, on a blow-up mattress, whatever it is--find out what the layout of each bedroom is."
Getting specific about how the rental home is equipped can also save some unpleasant surprises on arrival, too, particularly if you're planning to prepare a big holiday meal.
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