Mrs Mulla also shared her memories of her husband's two abiding loves: the navy and his daughters.
He was emotionally attached to people and institutions that he was close to.
He loved the Navy and he loved being a sailor. Many of his friends left the Navy to join the Merchant Navy where the salary and the perks were much better. Some of them urged him to also join the Merchant Navy and he would tell them 'I will never leave the Navy for anything in the world.' And when I broached the subject with him one day he said 'Are you uncomfortable with the way we live? Tell me what it is that you need that I am not able to give you'. I never raised the subject again.
He was very happy to have daughters and said so repeatedly, particularly because in Indian families, it is so important to have sons and he probably wanted me to be as happy with our daughters as he was.
He was very kind to the children and yet he was strict in the way they were brought up, although they were so young. He was particularly concerned about their moral values, the importance of integrity, of being truthful and honest, of intellectual pursuits, of reading and the development of one's character and being comfortable with oneself.
'He passed on to them the need for self control, of being able to enjoy the good things of life and yet to be happy and content without them. He introduced our daughters to literature and poetry both English and Hindi and he made them well versed with the classics.'
A glorious captain and a much beloved husband and father, the late Captain Mahendra Nath Mulla, ladies and gentlemen - indeed, the greatest hero I have known.
Maj. Gen. Ian Cardozo (Retd.), AVSM, SM is social activist, author and military historian. He is the author of two books `Param Vir: Our Heroes in Battle` and the `The Sinking of INS Khukri: Survivors` Stories`
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