At 66, her quest for motherhood is still on

Last Updated: Wed, May 07, 2008 22:02 hrs

Bhavani Amma was 62 when she gave birth to a boy. It was a record of a sort for a woman who attained menopause to conceive and give birth at this age.

Bhavani Amma fulfilled her dream through in-vitro fertilization (IVF) and embryo transfer (ET) method. She underwent hormone replacement therapy. Both the sperm and the ovum were taken from donors. The process involved fertilising the donor ovum with the sperm in a laboratory dish. Later the embryo was transferred to her uterus. The procedure was a success at the first attempt. The baby was retrieved through Caesarean after 34-weeks of gestation.

Bhavani Amma, a staunch believer of Lord Krishna, named the child Kannan. However, the joys of her motherhood died in just a couple of years. When Kannan was hardly two years old, he drowned in a bucket, leaving his old mother alone in this world.

But fate could not extinguish Bhavani Amma’s desire to be a mother once again. Now, at the age of 66, she is preparing to have another child. “With everybody’s prayer around me, I know, God will let me conceive once again,” she said in an exclusive interview to Sify.com. She recalled how she had climbed the 1500 steps to the Jivdani Mata Temple in Mumbai to pray for a progeny.

Why is she undergoing all these sufferings and prayers at this age? It’s a woman’s desire to gain what two marriages couldn’t, she says.

Bhavani Amma’s first marriage was at the age of 18. The couple’s effort to have a child was futile. The marriage lasted for 22 years till her husband died of cancer.

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She married again. But soon she realised that she could not give birth to a child. She asked her second husband to marry another woman; he begot a child with the latter. But Bhavani Amma was not allowed even to see the child. It was this sad experience that prompted her to turn to the ways of medical science to have a child of her own.

Bhavani Amma, who is a resident of Moovattupuzha near Ernakulam in Kerala, recently moved to Attingal in Thiruvananthapuram for treatment at Samad IVF Hospital where her first child was born. She plans to build a house in Attingal. She is working in an insurance company. The salary from this job and savings from her previous job as a primary school teacher are used for the treatment. However, she refused to divulge the details about her treatment. She says she doesn’t like to say more about her attempt till the child is born.

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