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I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I love him so much, more than anything else in my life. However I feel as though things have started going downhill in our relationship a long time ago (maybe 18 months ago). A year ago I met a new group of friends, and became 'friendly' with another guy. He made me feel really happy and I loved being around with him. But, a month ago, guilt overtook me and I confessed to my boyfriend about the second guy. My boyfriend agreed to forgive me and agreed to give everything a second shot. I told the other guy about this and we decided to part. But I really miss him. A few days ago, I met him so that I could give him back some of his stuff with me. When we met, he too confessed his strong feelings for me. Now, I am constantly depressed. I can hardly eat, sleep or do any other thing and I am being haunted with ideas to hurt myself. I feel so guilty after everything I've done to my boyfriend, as I love him as much as the other guy. I am stuck. Please help.

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# 5:		9:59 pm IST, October 26, 2009, SOORYA, India
		no one will gorgive you seciondtime, so pls dont take chancewith the second guy, never try to meet him ,not even in dreams, if youconnot controlyourself ,youwill be soon on the streets and everyone will tryto exploit you.
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# 4:		8:11 pm IST, October 23, 2009, SD, United States
		See yourself 5-10 yrs from now. If you make that decesion of not complicating your life any longer, and be loyal to your first one, you will thank yourself to have made a right decision, since u have been with yr BF for long time and love him so much. Friends like the second person will continue to come in your life. In future you may want watch yourself so that such situation doesn't arise. It is the time that will heal the sad feelings on both side. But believe me, you will be able to eventually come out of it.Shake off your guilt and making the right move and DO NOT indulge yourself in the past thoughts.
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# 3:		3:25 am IST, October 15, 2009, Bharat, United Kingdom
		There is one vital point you have said your love been going down hill what reason? is it attraction of new guy or negligance of first boyfriend? just ask yourself what you want we cant feel your love for first guy. its complete mockarey if you going to jump from one guy to another. can i say somethig there is no one is perfect what you say? you need person who loves you and can look after whole of your life not flashy one who will marry you and you will find in bed when you are away with someone else. socho yar socho tum kya ghar basane wali.
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# 2:		7:44 pm IST, October 12, 2009, S R K Rao, India
		Dear Ms Snigdha ji, You may be friendly to many but your partner can be only one. After reading your story, it is clear that you love the first boyfriend very much. Please go ahead with him and tie with him. Forget other ones.
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# 1:		9:34 am IST, October 11, 2009, Gurpreet, India
		Its very easy to suggest whatever one like to in few plain words like "forget your b/f and do not spoil the things" but its very very hard to get one of them off your mind. Everyone, even you know that its second b/f that s'd be scarified but real problem is not what? its how? Like drugs love hurts as well as give some unfogettenable moments also. So drug and love both come in our life step by step, over time. Real trick is to go back step by step, but be determined you wont step forward may what come. If its hard stay at one place for as long as you feel like, but no forward step. But in end when its somewhat bearable or should I say less hurting you have to cut off abruptly that much paint is not hurting as by then your sub conscious knows what you are doing and what is final step?. So no lapse there after and I am sure If your tell your first man your plan he will be helpful but It may complicate things when you feel like staying at one point for few more moments, he may take you a
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